29/11/2010

What Every Parent And Child Need To Know

I read this extremely wonderful story posted by one of the AOL teachers,which is thought provoking and a must know for all parents and their kids.Read on.....


One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial
position in a big company. When, he passed the first interview, the director
did the last interview, as he made the last decision. The director
discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent
all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research,
never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth
answered "none". The director asked, "Was it your father who paid for your
school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year
old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, "Where did your mother work?" The youth answered,

"My mother worked as clothes cleaner.

The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a

pair of hands that were smooth and perfect. The director asked, "Have

you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth

answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more

books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and

clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning."

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he

went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands.

His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her

hands to the kid. The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His

tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his

mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her

hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mothershivered when they

were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of

hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school

fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother

had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly

washed all the remaining clothes for his mother. That night, mother

and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The Director

noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me what

have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, "I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished

cleaning all the remaining clothes' The Director asked, "please tell

me your feelings."

The youth said:-

"Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there

would not the successful me today.

Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now

realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.

Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family

relationship. "

The director said, "This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I

want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a

person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a

person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are

hired."

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect

of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team.

The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he

wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put

himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts.

When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him,

and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of

his employees and would always blame others.

For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be

successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of

achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more.

If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love

or are we destroying the kid instead?

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn

piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please

let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and

bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you

do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love

them in a right way.

You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one

day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young

person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate

the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to

work with others to get things done.

-Bhavin


Jai Guru Dev.

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